The Sobering Truth About Parenting and How God Sees You

I am a firm believer that as parents (and guardians), we are responsible for guiding and supporting our children towards fulfilling their life’s purpose, rather than manipulating their future life course.

Contrary to what some parents may feel, children are not prized possessions; they are on loan to us for a season. They were not created to be replicas of ourselves. Children, from conception, have their own unique identity and personhood. Therefore, it’s an honor and weighty responsibility to nurture children into becoming emotionally intelligent, compassionate, empathetic, and productive human beings. And this privilege comes from God.

You didn’t come from your parents, you came through your parents

While mulling over this truth, I came across an inspiring and challenging message by Lance Wallnau that speaks volumes about our godly heritage and how parents and guardians shape our life story. Please read on to uncover some deep truths.

Sometimes somebody might come into the world through parents that are divorced or a mother that put them up for adoption, or they could even be the victim of incest or rape or something terrible like that. You know, not everyone comes through the earth in a fairytale story.

BUT…

You didn’t come from your parents, you came through your parents, God is the one who brought you into the world. I love that.

You didn’t come from your parents. You may have had loving parents, you may have had good parents, but you didn’t come from your parents, you came through your parents. God is the one who brought you into history at this time.

  • Whatever age you are, you are exactly the age God wanted you to be in 2015.
  • Whatever gender you are, you are exactly the gender God wanted you to be in 2015.
  • Whatever race or nationality or color of skin you are, you are who God brought you into the earth to be in this hour in history.

You are at the right place in the right body with the right gender in the right nationality with the right skin tone. And if you are a Christian, then your parents may have been the delivery vehicle through which God brought you into the world.

You came from God. God wanted you to exist. God wanted you to be here. God has gifts and talents that he has given you. And he has given them to you because He wants you to be an extension and expression of the goodness of God to other people’s lives.

God is putting the fragments of your story together so that your story will have a better next chapter than you possibly could ever imagine.

God is positioning you in your prayers. Please pray. Pray for God to put you at the right place with the right people at the right time.

Be faithful in everything that God gives you. Be faithful to honor everything. Put your faith into fruitless situations simply because by serving as unto the Lord, serving as unto God, and not unto people, serving as unto the Lord and not unto a ministry or person, but making the Lord your client. Every time you work with a client, treat them as though it was Jesus and do it by faith because God will be working through those people to connect you to His divine appointments.

Tell me, were you as blessed by these powerful truths as I was?

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How Empathetic Are You?

Empathy can change the world. We need more of it.

Simply put, empathy is putting yourself in someone else’s shoes and feeling what they’re feeling. This means:

  • Loving one another
  • Rejoicing with those who rejoice
  • Weeping with those who weep
  • Bearing one another’s burdens
  • Having an understanding mind
  • Being tenderhearted
  • Being kind to one another
  • Forgiving one another

Empathy has long been established as a cornerstone of emotional intelligence. Therefore, people with high emotional intelligence demonstrate great empathy.

Jesus wept (John 11:35).

This classic biblical scripture is a perfect embodiment of empathy. Jesus showed great empathy for the sick, the blind, the deaf, the destitute, the forsaken, the least of these, and more; he modeled high emotional intelligence.

So how empathetic are you? Check out this fun video clip to test your empathy.

Is There Any Good News Anymore?

Is it just me, or does the media not report good news anymore?

Seems to me like we’re constantly being barraged by tragic, devastating, hateful media content. It’s overwhelming. Just when you’re coming to grips with one heartbreaking situation, another horrible incident occurs.

Is there any good out there? Why aren’t we hearing more about it? At some point this deluge of bad news will only serve to desensitize us.

I think it’s important to balance all the legitimately tragic news with positive stories as well. My heart cannot continue to consume this bad press.

So in an age where the media is constantly pumping out negative, dark, gloomy, hateful, tragic stories, there’s wisdom in turning to your Bible … it’s replete with GOOD NEWS and pages upon pages of LOVE and HOPE for all humanity.

How do you feel about all the doom and gloom news coverage?

All You Need is ONE Word From God

All you need is one word, one message from God.

One word from God can change your life forever.

  • Turns around circumstances
  • Creates peace where sorrow abounds

One word from God started creation.

  • Breathes life into emptiness
  • Gives vision to transform nations

One word from God can activate dormant blessings.

  • Ignites purpose to lukewarm faith
  • Unlocks promises for your seed and generations to follow

Are you attentive to the Lord’s voice?

  • Listen carefully, it strikes with flashes of lightning (Psalm 29:7)
  • Carries creative&healing power

#AllYouNeedisONEWordFromGod

365 Moments (D3): Keeping A Cool Head In A Hot Situation

Sometimes we’re put into challenging situations to test our mettle. Here’s my story about keeping a cool head in the midst of road rage.

Source: iwantthatsign.com

Source: iwantthatsign.com

Anyone who’s visited Montreal knows that the roads are a hot mess and constantly under construction; sadly, road ragers tend to proliferate in such environments.

I had just dropped my daughter off at daycare and was heading back home with baby, when trouble erupted. I was confronted by an angry elderly couple. You see the road I was driving on could only accommodate one car at a time. Thinking I was being the bigger person, I pulled my car to the side of the road to allow the driver to pass (and I didn’t have to since I had right of way). I guess I didn’t leave the driver enough space because what ensued was redonkulous! Dude inched near my car, rolled down his window, and began shouting like a rabid animal; ironic how age is not a predictor for good behavior.

As he was spewing his venom, I told myself, “Don’t engage, don’t engage.” I refused to make eye contact and kept my window firmly shut. All I know is that it was too early in the morning to get worked up by a road rager. I was not going to let this man’s disrespectful behavior set the tone for my day.

How many of you can testify that we should be slow to speak and slow to become angry?

A few thoughts on anger:

  • Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools (Ecclesiastes 7:9)
  • People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness (Proverbs 14:29)
  • Stop being angry! Turn from your rage! Do not lose your temper—it only leads to harm (Psalm 37:8)

I’m proud of myself for displaying a high level of emotional intelligence: I controlled my emotions, I was not easily provoked, I did not lose my temper, and I didn’t act a fool in front of my baby.

Source: Jed Rogers Design Studio

Source: Jed Rogers Design Studio


This post is part of an ongoing series under Quick Tips for Creating a 365-day Motivation Guide.

Make Love Your Aim: Grow in Love

It hurts my heart to witness a society divided spewing hate and injustice. It’s disappointing to see the Bible branded as a tool for hatred and intolerance.

I wish the world could see that God’s heart is LOVE. I wish the world would appreciate that we are all just people trying to find our way.

Rather than sowing hate and negativity, can’t we simply enjoy our family and friends and be grateful that we get to LIVE today? Do we need another tragedy to remind us to love one another? To appreciate and care for each other?

Love should be the motivation for all our interactions. Jesus—the embodiment of perfect love—encouraged us to “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind; and, love your neighbor as yourself” (Luke 10:27).

I’d like to consider myself a friend to everyone who shares with me the time of day. No agenda. No judgment. No holier-than-thou attitude. So simple.

I leave you with this beautiful Bible passage on love:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).

Yes, love never fails. Love always wins. God is love. For God so loved the world…

How Do You Overcome the Fear of Man?

Fear_Proverbs 29-25

The Fear of man or “what will people think” syndrome manifests in so many situations:

  • At job interviews
  • When creating or publishing content
  • At public speaking events
  • When meeting new people
  • Basically anytime you’re being vulnerable
  • You name it: _____________________

Any time we’re thrown out of our comfort zone, fear is likely to creep in, and it can be paralyzing.

Faith offends the instinct to remain stationary; fear keeps us stuck

But the Lord tells us not to be afraid.

Why?

Because fear challenges our faith in God: without faith it is impossible to please God. Fear cannot coexist with faith. It contradicts God’s promise to be with us no matter what. Faith offends the instinct to remain stationary, whereas fear keeps us stuck.

The fear of man brings a snare. Trust in God keeps us grounded

Wisdom tells us that the fear of man only entraps us and it can be debilitating.

I’ve always had an irrational fear of public speaking. With time and practice, I’ve learned to overcome this fear. I remember an incident where I had to pitch a project to a major client and fear gripped me to the point where my physiology overtook my mind: elevated heart rate, dry mouth, shakes, sweating, overactive bladder—it wasn’t a cute look!

But when you know better, you do better. I’m learning that the antidote to fear of man is trust in God. He will keep us safe and boost our confidence when we need it most.

So you choked, what can man really do to you?

Next time you’re thrust into an uncomfortable situation, ask yourself, “What can man really do to me?”

It sounds simplistic, but it’s true. The person in front of you is human just like you. Therefore don’t let opinions, possible opinions, attitudes, or fear of rejection control you. Trust that God made you uniquely wonderful and capable to overcome the task or situation at hand.

TD Jakes said it well:

Fear is like a seed in the womb of your mind, it’s your choice to incubate it or reject it.

Today and always, choose to reject fear. Trust and believe that just like last time, God will get you through this situation. He got this!

How do you overcome the fear of man?

Everyone Just Wants to be Heard

Bench

Welcome
 Take a seat
 Share your story
 You have an audience in me
 I see you
 I hear you
 Your voice matters
 Your heart is safe with me

O my people, 
trust in him at all times. 
Pour out your heart to him, 
for God is our refuge. 
Psalm 62:8